A: Rest assured that God loves you regardless of anything that you do. You should also know that God has a wonderful plan for your life. In fact, your knowledge of him and your shame of this sin actually fall within his plan. God loves you so much that he will let nothing come between you and Him sharing eternal life in Heaven. St. Paul writes,
“For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor present things, nor future things, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
That being said, God gives us the grace we need to overcome sin and if we turn to him he will lift us out of any sin or despair we find ourselves. Here are some helpful tips to overcome addiction to pornography:
- Go to confession: God is eager to forgive any sin and the grace you will receive in the sacrament of reconciliation, if it is received by a sorrowful and repenting heart, will strengthen you against sinning in the future.
- Limit access: If you have any subscriptions to pornographic magazines or websites, cancel them immediately. It may hurt to remove those things from your life, but the hurt is like the momentary sting of removing a band aid, and by doing this you will experience tremendous growth. After that is done, you may want to keep your computer in a public place so that the presence of your family or friends will reduce your temptation to view pornography
- Find someone to hold you accountable: Some software programs allow your online presence to be monitored by others who can charitably hold you accountable and provide help so you don’t fall into sin. This software created by X3 should be helpful.
- Don’t give up if you fall again: Just like the father who welcomes home the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32), God is always willing to accept our repentance even if we fall into sin again. The thing he dreads the most is us choosing despair and permanently turning away from him. As the book of Sirach says, “Accept whatever happens to you; in periods of humiliation be patient. For in fire gold is tested, and the chosen, in the crucible of humiliation. Trust in God, and he will help you; make your ways straight and hope in him.” (Sirach 2:4-6)